Thursday, October 30, 2014

Listen to the Silence

When Ronan Keating sings his beautiful rendition of the hit You Say It Best When You Say Nothing At All, he makes me believe that it's true.

Silence is Golden is another song on the subject.

The Proverbs in the Old Testament state in 17:28 -  Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent.

Each person has a unique personality; some are outgoing, some are shy. There are those who love to be the center of attention in any setting and others who prefer sitting in the back, observing the ongoings.

I found this articles with a long list of advice called How To Be a Quiet Person on the Internet.
The articles is divided into three main areas:

  • Having a Quiet Demeanor
  • Being Quieter In Conversation
  • Leading a Quiet Life
Each section has these undertitles:
Act more cautiously
Keep your body language approachable and gentle
Stay calm in volatile situations
Earn other's trust by being to the point and reliable
Learn to command respect through using fewer words
Rely on your face to express yourself
Know yourself - and do the opposite

Have a point when you speak
Let the other person dominate the conversation
Observe the body language of the person you are talking to
Stop interrupting people
Ask questions that focus on the other person
Lower your volume
Take a moment to open your mind

Find a hobby
Spend more time alone
Spend more time with introverted friends
Consider seeing a therapist
Stay true to you

Sometimes closing one's mouth is a good thing, especially if unkind or hurtful words are about to escape and enter ears and minds where they will be kept in a drawer forever.

But words are also good, loving, and necessary.
The wisdom is to learn to balance words and action, and develop character traits that will do good instead of harm.

I have a good friend who says she loves to listen to the stillness.
There is also much wisdom in that.

Today's water color hangs in our cabin, Eljarbu, in the mountains. There is hardly anything more quiet than snow.

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